Reasons for divorce: every divorce is different

When it comes to the reasons for divorce, our divorce and finance team will be the first to tell you that no divorce or separation is the same. Every person has their own unique story and whilst well-meaning friends and family may be only too eager to give you their thoughts, it’s only by talking to a lawyer that you’ll receive personalised and reliable advice.

Senior Associate at Cartridges Law, Anita Laws, told us that although there are a few common reasons for the breakdown of a relationship, every relationship is different and therefore so is every separation or divorce.

Anita said: “While there are common triggers for divorce, everyone has their own priorities and thresholds of what behaviours they will accept. What might be seen as unreasonable behaviour in a marriage by one person might be totally fine in someone else’s. Differing opinions on what is reasonable behaviour in a relationship can lead to disputes and, in some cases under the old law, even lead to a divorce being refused.

Removing ‘fault’ from the divorce process

Until last year, people seeking a divorce had to demonstrate how one partner was at fault for the breakdown of the relationship, or that they had been separated/deserted for either 2 or 5 years. The main legal reasons allowed, known as ‘grounds’ for divorce, were:

  • Unreasonable Behaviour
  • Adultery
  • Separation (for a minimum of two years, or five years where the other partner did not consent)
  • Desertion (minimum of two years)

The good news is that since no fault divorce came into effect in April 2022, it is no longer necessary to “blame” the other party. One or both spouses now simply have to declare, as long as they have been married for more than 12 months, that there has been an irretrievable breakdown of the marriage. The new rules mean separating couples no longer have to present “their story” which, will hopefully make a difficult time slightly less fraught. 

Common reasons for divorce

While every divorce is different and there can be many different reasons, Anita also told us that these very often include:

  1. Abuse – which can be physical, sexual or emotional, including coercive control
  2. Infidelity
  3. Financial issues, such as not being open about money or gambling problems

If you are facing any form of domestic abuse, practical help is available through the Devon Domestic Abuse Service. and other services.  We can also provide help by way of legal advice and representation.

How can we help?

Whether you have already started the divorce process or would just like to know your legal options in the event of a separation, we can provide confidential advice that is specific to your circumstances.

Our expert team can arrange a free, 30 minute consultation in relation to the divorce and financial orders process. Whilst this doesn’t amount to full legal advice, it does give them a chance to help you to understand the process in relation to your unique case, and how they can best help you.

Contact us or give our team a call today on 01392 256854.